Tuesday October 3 2006
A few things on my mind today. One of which Im not allowed to blog about.
Another thing is Volunteer Work - particularly in Girl Guides. I grew up in Girl Guides and Im certain that my children will be in Girl Guides and/or Scouts. I was a Brownie Leader for 2 years in Beachburg and loved it! Took some time off when I lived in Kingston but now that I have found myself in a town where everyone is so tight knit, I need some ways to have some fun! So I signed back up to be a Brownie Leader. Upon re-registering, I told the Commissioner that I didnt want to be the contact leader and didnt want to be a treasurer. So basically third or fourth on the food chain of the Brownie Unit. She was totally cool with that. As the starting of Brownie rolled around, the contact leader moved up to Guides (without her, there wouldnt have been Guides) and I become the contact because out of the rest, I was most experienced. But, I had 2 other leaders (including a treasurer) and a Junior Leader...so I figured everything would be fine. Last Monday was meeting #3 and we were in crisis. The Junior Leader and the Treasurer stopped coming and will not return phone calls. I felt very unorganized, alone and and and and. So I called the Commissioner and told her that something had to change....and boy did she take me seriously! :) She found a leader from last year, who wanted to take a break this year but said she would come back temporarily until we found permanent replacements. So Striped Owl (her Brownie Name) and I had a 2 hour meeting and got things under control. I still dont have someone for Treasurer...and I really dont want to be Brown Owl (meaning head leader) and Treasurer. The Commissioner is taking the books off my hands for now. THANK GOD!!!! So I guess things are turning around....
Next item on my list is holidays. Holidays either bring out the best in people or the worst. My family...who freaking knows. In the past we all just have sucked up every emotion, feeling and thought and pushed through the event to make other people happy. Most of you know that I have some pretty strong opinions on things, and family is certainly one of them. Ill never forget the feeling I had when I realized that my family just isnt as great, close and tight as I had been made to believe. For years, my mother told me, well more like demanded me to keep my mouth shut and basically pretend that I like everyone simply because Papa was sick and she wasnt about to have ME ruin a holiday event. After Papa passed away, my mom made is clear to everyone that we ALL were to keep this up for Nanny, and then Nanny got sick, really sick, so we obviously kept the peace for her final holidays with us.
So this Christmas...this Christmas is certainly something special for me. Its our (Rodney and me) first Christmas so I want it to be special. Secondly...it looks like Mr and Mrs Keeping are coming to stay with us over Christmas and I really want to make sure that they have a great Christmas!!! Rodney hasnt had Christmas with his parents in about 10 years, so it is going to be a good one for so many reasons!
But see there are some issues. I have an aunt that has dug herself a serious hole and I dont think I even know the whole story. She is completely broke and borrowing money from whomever she can. I have NO idea if she is taking money (because she NEVER pays it back) from my mother. And if she is, all hell is going to break loose (Stace and I both agreed on this one) My mother, after taking a number of years OFF from work to care for her parents is back to work and working like a horse. She is working two different jobs, in two different towns, one full time and the other part time. She working like this because she has a huge house and a ton of household expenses and she isnt ready to let the house go yet. (I dont blame her, I love that house and hope to own it some day) So if there is a money sucking family member out there who is now taking from my mother because she cant take from her own anymore....Ill be the first to intervene there. I know I cannot control my mother's life, but I will make it very VERY clear that this needs to stop. This same aunt just left her husband and has two teenagers. These teenagers have no respect for others and have learned less discipline than my sisters cats (inside joke that only few will get but trust me...her cats dont listen/behave at all). Rules mean absolutely NOTHING to them but really, why should they when they weren't taught that there are consequences in life for stupidity!!!! At 14 and almost 16, they swear, back talk, and the 16 year old drinks, alot. He constantly is taking/stealing mouthfulls of anyone's booze. Its just complete chaos.
My Uncle Terry brings a certain amount of chaos, but what do you expect from a man who is dual diagnosis and has never been on the correct perscription of medications???? He cannot stand these 2 teenagers and they irrate him to no end. The only difference is that he is allowed to yell at them or about them because he is Terry. But when there is a calm environment, he is great! The amount of chaos that Terry brings, to me, is ligit and he will ALWAYS be involved in MY holiday events.
My Nanny Mary (great grandmother) also brings a certain amount of chaos. The woman is almost 100, alive and kicking, smokes like a chimey, steals smokes and pretty much anything she can get her hands on. She also refuses to bathe, Im certain her sense of smell is gone...(ew) But she is Nanny Mary. She has lost her mind, literally, her stories make ZERO sense because she takes bits and pieces from every story she knows and makes up her own. But that is rather funny. I think she would really like to meet Mr and Mrs Keeping though!
We are apparently having Thanksgiving dinner on Monday evening at my mom's. Almost like a preview of things to come.
I spoke with Stace last night and she said that even though I feel the way I do, I simply cannot NOT invite certain family members to Christmas dinner. But it's different (apparently) because my mom's other brother, Tim, is CLEARLY not welcome in the family anymore. He chose to rid us all and we are JUST FINE with that. His children, my cousins, are more than welcome at my place anytime, anywhere and ALL the time! They know this. Their mother, Tim's exwife is also welcome too. Im not sure how this is any different. My aunt sucked money out of her parents, just like Tim. My aunt neglects her children, just like Tim (well he abused/abuses them). My aunt is an alcholic and Tim was (maybe even is).
I honestly dont know what to do.
A few things on my mind today. One of which Im not allowed to blog about.
Another thing is Volunteer Work - particularly in Girl Guides. I grew up in Girl Guides and Im certain that my children will be in Girl Guides and/or Scouts. I was a Brownie Leader for 2 years in Beachburg and loved it! Took some time off when I lived in Kingston but now that I have found myself in a town where everyone is so tight knit, I need some ways to have some fun! So I signed back up to be a Brownie Leader. Upon re-registering, I told the Commissioner that I didnt want to be the contact leader and didnt want to be a treasurer. So basically third or fourth on the food chain of the Brownie Unit. She was totally cool with that. As the starting of Brownie rolled around, the contact leader moved up to Guides (without her, there wouldnt have been Guides) and I become the contact because out of the rest, I was most experienced. But, I had 2 other leaders (including a treasurer) and a Junior Leader...so I figured everything would be fine. Last Monday was meeting #3 and we were in crisis. The Junior Leader and the Treasurer stopped coming and will not return phone calls. I felt very unorganized, alone and and and and. So I called the Commissioner and told her that something had to change....and boy did she take me seriously! :) She found a leader from last year, who wanted to take a break this year but said she would come back temporarily until we found permanent replacements. So Striped Owl (her Brownie Name) and I had a 2 hour meeting and got things under control. I still dont have someone for Treasurer...and I really dont want to be Brown Owl (meaning head leader) and Treasurer. The Commissioner is taking the books off my hands for now. THANK GOD!!!! So I guess things are turning around....
Next item on my list is holidays. Holidays either bring out the best in people or the worst. My family...who freaking knows. In the past we all just have sucked up every emotion, feeling and thought and pushed through the event to make other people happy. Most of you know that I have some pretty strong opinions on things, and family is certainly one of them. Ill never forget the feeling I had when I realized that my family just isnt as great, close and tight as I had been made to believe. For years, my mother told me, well more like demanded me to keep my mouth shut and basically pretend that I like everyone simply because Papa was sick and she wasnt about to have ME ruin a holiday event. After Papa passed away, my mom made is clear to everyone that we ALL were to keep this up for Nanny, and then Nanny got sick, really sick, so we obviously kept the peace for her final holidays with us.
So this Christmas...this Christmas is certainly something special for me. Its our (Rodney and me) first Christmas so I want it to be special. Secondly...it looks like Mr and Mrs Keeping are coming to stay with us over Christmas and I really want to make sure that they have a great Christmas!!! Rodney hasnt had Christmas with his parents in about 10 years, so it is going to be a good one for so many reasons!
But see there are some issues. I have an aunt that has dug herself a serious hole and I dont think I even know the whole story. She is completely broke and borrowing money from whomever she can. I have NO idea if she is taking money (because she NEVER pays it back) from my mother. And if she is, all hell is going to break loose (Stace and I both agreed on this one) My mother, after taking a number of years OFF from work to care for her parents is back to work and working like a horse. She is working two different jobs, in two different towns, one full time and the other part time. She working like this because she has a huge house and a ton of household expenses and she isnt ready to let the house go yet. (I dont blame her, I love that house and hope to own it some day) So if there is a money sucking family member out there who is now taking from my mother because she cant take from her own anymore....Ill be the first to intervene there. I know I cannot control my mother's life, but I will make it very VERY clear that this needs to stop. This same aunt just left her husband and has two teenagers. These teenagers have no respect for others and have learned less discipline than my sisters cats (inside joke that only few will get but trust me...her cats dont listen/behave at all). Rules mean absolutely NOTHING to them but really, why should they when they weren't taught that there are consequences in life for stupidity!!!! At 14 and almost 16, they swear, back talk, and the 16 year old drinks, alot. He constantly is taking/stealing mouthfulls of anyone's booze. Its just complete chaos.
My Uncle Terry brings a certain amount of chaos, but what do you expect from a man who is dual diagnosis and has never been on the correct perscription of medications???? He cannot stand these 2 teenagers and they irrate him to no end. The only difference is that he is allowed to yell at them or about them because he is Terry. But when there is a calm environment, he is great! The amount of chaos that Terry brings, to me, is ligit and he will ALWAYS be involved in MY holiday events.
My Nanny Mary (great grandmother) also brings a certain amount of chaos. The woman is almost 100, alive and kicking, smokes like a chimey, steals smokes and pretty much anything she can get her hands on. She also refuses to bathe, Im certain her sense of smell is gone...(ew) But she is Nanny Mary. She has lost her mind, literally, her stories make ZERO sense because she takes bits and pieces from every story she knows and makes up her own. But that is rather funny. I think she would really like to meet Mr and Mrs Keeping though!
We are apparently having Thanksgiving dinner on Monday evening at my mom's. Almost like a preview of things to come.
I spoke with Stace last night and she said that even though I feel the way I do, I simply cannot NOT invite certain family members to Christmas dinner. But it's different (apparently) because my mom's other brother, Tim, is CLEARLY not welcome in the family anymore. He chose to rid us all and we are JUST FINE with that. His children, my cousins, are more than welcome at my place anytime, anywhere and ALL the time! They know this. Their mother, Tim's exwife is also welcome too. Im not sure how this is any different. My aunt sucked money out of her parents, just like Tim. My aunt neglects her children, just like Tim (well he abused/abuses them). My aunt is an alcholic and Tim was (maybe even is).
I honestly dont know what to do.
posted by Amanda | 5:32 PM
5 Comments:
I know exactly what you mean about the holidays and family.
On my father's side, almost no one gets along. All they do is sit and bicker at each other and how one is better than the next.
My mother's side of the family was the complete opposite. We could actually all sit in the same room and get along.
After my grandmother (on my mother's side) passed away everything blew up. None of us have been together for a holiday since she passed. She was the glue that held her together.
We're having Thanksgiving here. It will be the firs time that Justin and I have hosted it. I'm extremely nervous. (Less nervous then I should be though because Justin's mom isn't coming! LOL).
*Glue that held us together. Damn typo...
How was Thanksgiving my fair lady?
Are you talking to me or the other guy? LOL
The other guy....Who are you Peter???
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